Showing posts with label parenting. Show all posts
Showing posts with label parenting. Show all posts

Saturday, November 30, 2013

Parent Funny

Wifey suggested Reasons My Son is Crying. It is completely hilarious.


Saturday, August 17, 2013

Parental Fail Day


We aren't usually like this, really, I promise.

Daughter was up screaming all night. Totally uncharacteristic and just miserable for everyone involved, especially her. This morning it turns out she was getting bit by little tiny ants. Probably 2 dozen small little bites on her head and neck. No wonder she had a terrible night. Just couldn't see them in the dark and ants biting people in apartments is a new thing for us.

Went to tell the manager lady they needed to spray this dump to kill all the ants. Her "shocked and semi apologetic" act is wearing thin on me. [It was semi amusing when she faked surprise after our initial inspection I mentioned the fridge smells like death but this is ridiculous. My kid got hurt so I am pissed. Also she had a big thing of bug spray in the closet of her office. Additionally despite a lot of lysol the fridge still smells like death. Thank goodness this is not our permanent residence]

Walker had those packaged chocolate doughnuts which were purchased at some point during our trip and dry cereal washed down with juice for breakfast.

We ran around all morning looking at houses. After lunch Walker tossed his milk shake on the floor of the car. Thankfully it's contents spilling was mitigated by the mountain of junk on the floorboards of the back seat. Wifey said "I am not happy with you" to which he replied "That's OK with me."

This afternoon he tossed a toy truck out the open window of our vehicle while driving. Walker then proudly told the folks in front of us at the store that "He tossed the monster truck out the window." I mentioned that it was one of parenting's finer moments which got quite a laugh out of the 50 year old couple in front of us in line and the 40 year old cashier.

At several points the door was left open for the dog to roam outside on his own recognizance. Thankfully he is well behaved so Dog only explored the front yard and looked around to check out the new area. One time he actually walked back inside without any direction.

We had ice cream sundaes for dinner. It wasn't planned but just sort of happened.

Tonight they are wearing yesterday's Pajamas again because almost everything we own is currently dirty. Sort of didn't keep the best track of our clean clothes inventory so we noticed when everything was dirty. OOPS!!! That the kids go through 2-3 outfits a day plus Pajamas's doesn't help any. To make matters even worse could not give them baths tonight because somehow we do not have any towels. They were packed at the last place (for this transitional period) but either are still in the storage place or were lost during the move.

Short of spending the day at our family single wide trailer/ meth lab then leaving them with creepy Uncle Larry so we can smoke meth and do home invasions today couldn't have been much worse. On the plus side that means there is ample room for improvement tomorrow.

I sprayed some ant stuff this morning so hopefully that helps. Tonight Daughter will be sleeping in an elevated position to hopefully deter the ants, plus we'll know to check that if she gets way overly fussy. Also got our vehicle cleaned out from the trip so that is good. We went grocery shopping today so tomorrow we can eat some actual food that doesn't come in a greasy paper bag. We'll do laundry tomorrow and get some towels so at least our little rug rats will be clean.

So that was my day.

Edited to include: Wifey mentioned that I forgot to include that Walker wore a black plastic batman rain coat for about half of the day. In 90 degree 100% humidity Louisiana August weather. He really wanted to for some reason. We checked repeatedly to confirm he was not too hot but the kid just wanted to wear the rain coat. 

Edited again to include: I forgot that he also ate an entire box of tick tack's all at once. Emptied the container strait into his mouth.

Wednesday, November 7, 2012

Quote of the Day

"You're not allowed to eat ice cream and ride the dog, we have rules in this house."
-Me talking to Walker

Tuesday, April 24, 2012

Facebook Shaming Your Kids

Some mom decided to facebook shame her kid and it made the news. It seems to be pretty comparable though less dramatic than the dad who shot his daughters laptop with a .45.

Am I the only one who thinks these parents are doing something terribly stupid albeit probably well intentioned?

Somewhere along my meandering life I heard a phrase "praise in public and admonish in private." In my brief experiences leading men and a lifetime of having all manner of relationships I can say this is just really great advice. (I am not saying parenthood and leading soldiers are the same thing but some elements are similar) The one time I have really chastised (vs a normal correction) a soldier in public I regretted it. I realized later that I let my emotions get the better of me.

Now this is not to say I do not believe in correcting children. Quite the opposite in fact. The thing is that whenever possible I believe in doing it in private. If that Dad had done the exact same thing giving the speach and shooting her laptop with is wife and daughter in their yard I would think it was reasonably acceptable.

There are multiple issues in play. Kids are stupid. My toddler Walker who should probably be named Curious George or Attilla the Hun is a little terror. At some point closer to 2 than fifteen kids become capable of some level of self control and awareness. A 15 year old might make stupid decisions but they typically know those decisions are at least somewhat stupid. The phrase sinking to their level comes to mind.

I really do not think it is impressive to outwit or mock your teenager. Again they are stupid. Being mature and not sinking to their level is part of a parent's job. I think it is important that even if you have to punish them they can see that you are actually on their side. To varying degrees kids will rebel or be little jerks or otherwise test boundaries. These days some or all of this will involve multi media. I believe they should be held accountable for their actions but in the right way.

For the sake of full disclosure I have a child but not a teenager.

Am I completely off base on this?

Friday, January 20, 2012

Stay At Home Mothers

A girl I know that just had kiddo #2 brought up the idea of staying at home with them.  That got me thinking and talking about this topic. I thought an update might interest some of you.

In case you didn’t know Wifey has been at home with the kid since he was born. It has worked pretty well for us and while he drives her crazy occasionally she likes it. We know what he eats for meals, because she feeds it to him. We know if he hit his head, because she was there. No worries about him being abused or neglected or whatever else happens in daycare. There is lots of one on one time to play and try to teach him words and all that stuff. Studies consistently show that a stay at home mother is the best situation for a kid’s development and all that stuff. I don’t think anybody will seriously argue against that point.

So far it has turned out to be a very good decision for her to stay at home with him and I don’t see a reason that would change. Mothers staying at home and raising their kids has been, as of the last few decades, going the way of the Dodo bird. I don’t know why exactly.

There are two fundamental questions when it comes to momma staying at home with the kids. The first question is does momma want to stay at home with the kids and where dad is with the whole thing. A simple enough question really. The best part is that there is not a right or wrong answer. Some women have interests and goals outside of the home and that is fine too. While the women’s lib fantasy that a woman can have a big important career and balance a marriage and children could be debated it doesn’t matter. If she wants to work then that is just fine, I’m not the Taliban.

The second question is whether the family can make the numbers work to afford for momma to stay at home. This is a more complicated one and will be addressed at more length. For momma to stay at home the family needs to live off what dad makes. To back up a second this means dad needs to be in the picture and that there is a cohesive family unit which today is sadly not a given. This is one of those things that is simple but not easy, sort of like how the way to lose weight is to eat less. This is really where the hypothetical meets real life. 
To paraphrase Ronnie Coleman, a champion body builder, “Everybody wants to be strong, but they don’t want to lift the weight.” Lots of folks talk about staying at home with kids but it doesn’t happen. The reason is that with only one income you will not be able to do what you could if both partners were working, especially if both are capable of more than menial labor. To say it another way; living on one income means a more modest lifestyle than you could otherwise have. For a lot of people that is a hard pill to swallow.

Personally I don’t really mind it. I have run the numbers on what we would be able to save and invest and otherwise do if Wifey worked and they were pretty attention grabbing. However it is not worth it to me. I certainly wouldn’t mind a nicer vehicle or whatever but at the end of the day it is just stuff. How much do some bigger numbers in some electronic accounts really matter?

 For other folks the math simply doesn’t work. That is a more complicated discussion. Sometimes it just doesn’t, especially if Dad is a part time non union janitor or works for minimum wage. Unless you are willing to live REAL CHEAP that won’t work. However I would say if he is making more than 30-40k or so a year (or course cost of living is a factor, 30k in Manhattan, Kansas is a lot different from Manhattan, New York) income probably isn’t the whole issue.  What gets a lot of folks stuck is that they have a debt load which can’t be covered by one income. It could vary from rent/ mortgage to credit cards and vehicles or whatever which just can’t work with one wage earner. This is yet another reason to stay out of debt. You can radically change spending habits tomorrow should the need arise, it sucks to go from steak and lobster to spaghetti or rice and beans but it can be done. However money that has been promised is baring default, not an expense you can change. This is, more than most folks will admit, the reason the numbers just don’t work. Either they can’t drop their living expenses due to it being locked in obligations or they choose not to for whatever reason.
When I hear folks say it is impossible to have a parent stay home with the kids I want to ask what their cars are, what sort of toys they have and where they went on vacation last. The answer is that yes, it may well be impossible to buy a nice new car or two every couple years, have their toys and vacations on just one of their salaries. However all that stuff is a choice, not a given. I am not sure if they are unwilling or don’t even consider it but usually the answer is that yes, they could afford for her to stay home if they changed their lifestyle.

On the plus side having a wife at home helps with expenses or at least it can. Home cooked meals instead of eating out all the time, stuff like that. The possibility of having one car or an older one that will just go to the grocery store, etc is legitimate. She doesn’t need professional clothes or have those types of expenses. One of the biggest places a second income goes is daycare. Daycare for two or more kids adds up in a hurry. The bitter irony is many wives are working for a tiny salary once daycare is considered. Their real take home is just a few hundred dollars. I would submit to them that cutting that amount from their budget is pretty doable should they be so inclined.

I don’t want to get anybody down or poke at however you choose to live your life. You are free to make whatever choices you want.  All I want is for folks to know that having mom stay at home with the kids is quite possible if they are willing to make a few sacrifices. It is quite worth it to us and Wifey will stay at home until the kids (planning on getting Walker a battle buddy) are in school then she will likely start some sort of job.

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

quote of the day

"I don't know who you are. I don't know what you want. If you are looking for ransom, I can tell you I don't have money. But what I do have are a very particular set of skills; skills I have acquired over a very long career. Skills that make me a nightmare for people like you. If you let my daughter go now, that'll be the end of it. I will not look for you, I will not pursue you. But if you don't, I will look for you, I will find you, and I will kill you."
-Bryan the crazy ex CIA father in Taken

Thursday, April 15, 2010

This Amuses Me

"A parent's only as good as their dumbest kid. If one wins a Nobel Prize but the other gets robbed by a hooker, you failed."
-Justin (shitmydadsays)
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